Dr. Shefali Tsabari

The way the parenting paradigm has been set up is just designed for even greater boost of ego than I've ever seen in any other relationship. And how does the ego sound ? It's my. It's I. Correct ? We start talking like this. I, as a parent; my child. Right ? The possession. The ownership. It's inherent. That's why I love this relationship, because it's such a trick from the Universe. You know ? The Universe gives you children. It says they're yours. So it seduces you into thinking, it's mine. You have to call them mine. Right ? I'm not wrong in saying mine. But yet the child comes out and says,"I'm not you. I'm not you. I'm not you. Now deal with me. Attune me. Do you recognize my spirit ? I will not belong or be yours, I can come through you, but I will not be yours."

You cannot even dare to have the audacity to think about raising another being until you yourself are parented. Untuk you have raised your own self to the highest level of evolution. Then you can aspire to meet this being who is living in the present who has no attachment to identity. I tell parents,"You have to own that there's a big degree, a high amount of narcissism, egoic desire to fulfill your own self to have children." Parenting is not selfless. There are elements of selflessness in it, but the driving force to have a child comes from your own desire to complete something within you. If you don't raise yourself first, and parent yourself, then you will aspire to make your child a mini version of yourself. So you're actually not even raising the child then. You're just raising yourself. So let's just call it what it is. Rein that ego in, parent yourself, and the. You will attune to your child. Then you will make space for the spirit of your child to unfold.